Heart, brain and belly

Writing my gratitude calms me; brings me back to the present moment.

And here I notice three physical distinctions. Heart, brain and belly: metaphors for the three most powerful emotions: love, fear and desire.

I notice that while my brain falls victim to fearful thoughts that scramble round my head like a screeching macaque, and while desire is a visitor to my belly, my heart is the constant. Even though I can lose sight and sense of it under the influence of the marauding imposters, it doesn’t stop beating.

I envisage my glowing heart as the source of love that doesn’t need to be projected anywhere, onto anything or anyone. I breathe into it; feel it expand, quietly pulsing, alive, giving, bright, soft, safe. It is entirely me. There is a contented settling within myself, beautiful and serene.

When I remember this my brain quietens, and there is tremendous comfort in knowing that my heart is neither undone nor broken once desire leaves my belly.

As I write I am grateful for the nascent understanding that I am neither brain nor belly – but most definitely heart.

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Letting Go


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Originally posted on Wildflower Women:

One of the hardest lessons in life is to know when to let go. Whether it is guilt, loss, love, anger or betrayal change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go. We must be willing to sacrifice our limited tunnel vision and fly. When we rid ourselves of limitation, hesitation, or refusal to take right action we can make our lives sacred. We must admit our own mistakes as well as forgive those that have caused us pain, letting go of guilt, shame and blame and begin from love. We must be willing to stand fully in the light.

In order to stand in the light, we must be willing to let go and sacrifice those unhealed parts within ourselves that are no longer in accordance with the sacredness of our being, this would be our shadow side. We should not deny our…

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How is the Law of Attraction working for you?

My family and I have recently been improving our financial IQ by playing Robert Kiyosaki’s Cashflow Game. Like a turbo-charged incarnation of Monopoly it’s a game of chance, but with lots of lessons along the way about assets, liabilities, property and business deals that can make for exciting rainy day entertainment.

Cashflow game

While playing the game with friends this past weekend, I found myself on a particular streak of having to pay out hundreds on various expenses, what Kiyosaki calls Doodads, and for which there are cards to turn over much like Monopoly’s Chance or Community Chest cards.

“I don’t believe it!” I kept saying. “Just my luck I’ll get the boat too.”

Now the boat is the most extravagant of doodads, weighing in at a hefty $18k, which on my meagre janitor’s salary would pretty much break the bank.

“I don’t want the boat!” I continued with every roll of the dice.

Until guess what? I got the boat.

Well duh.

Quite apart from learning how to manage money once you’ve got it this in itself was a valuable lesson about how to attract it – or not – in the first place.

Take a look at what you’re regularly saying you don’t believe, or you don’t want, or what it’ll be just your luck to get.

And quick – use your journal to find a different way to put it. Or just stop going on about it altogether.

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A day of alignment

As the moon begins to bite its eclipse into the sun on this spring equinox – the first time there has been this perfect an alignment since 1681 – it’s an inspiring day for us to pick up our journal and write about what we are aligning ourselves with in our life.

Some great inquiries and meditations can happen today – when the celestial bodies in our tiny area of the cosmos are being extraordinarily cooperative.

The moon is 400 times smaller than the sun – yet it is 400 times closer to the earth, which makes it like David to Goliath, able to completely block out the visible surface of the sun from our view.

So take up your journal and explore.

What are you aligned with?

What is your true David to Goliath power?

What will you overcome in order to achieve your dreams?

Happy eclipse day. Happy first day of spring.

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Journaling for entrepreneurs

Last week I presented a 20 minute talk about journal writing to a group of 15 small business owners at a networking breakfast. They’re a great bunch with whom I network on a regular basis, and as they can be quite lively I was curious to see how they would respond to some quiet time to write reflectively.

Having explained a little bit about the power of journaling I then led them through 4 carefully selected journaling prompts – to break them in gently!

I was thrilled that for 10 whole minutes the whole group – most of whom were not accustomed to this type of activity – sat and wrote. The sense of mindful calm that descended upon the room was luscious – and something that I have become very familiar with, and fond of, when encouraging groups of people to reflect together.

In the spirit of reviewing and setting goals and intentions for the New Year, the prompts I suggested were:

I am grateful for..

It is a time of…

My accomplishments this week have been…

Next week I promise myself…

After the session there were a number of questions and comments, and a real sense that beginning the day mindfully was a positive thing.

I hope that more business owners will give journaling a try to gain perspective, test out ideas and tap into their inner wisdom, creativity and resourcefulness. After all this is the true spirit of the entrepreneur.

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Reflection and gratitude pave the way for success


What a worthy sounding title to this post.

But right here at the start of 2015, fresh out of a Christmas break which I mostly spent with my nose in books such as The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson and The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters, I am convinced that, worthy though it may sound, reflection and gratitude are vital components in a successful life.

And even though it sounds worthy – and not at all hard-nosed and business-like – this is what I’m going to tell my fellow networkers during my journaling presentation to them this coming Thursday.

I’m mad about journaling. You might have guessed. And I’m convinced that far from being the favourite pastime of spinster aunts, journaling can help everyone in all walks of life, from the most spiritually orientated individual to the more business-savvy. After all what happens in your journal stays in your journal. But there’s nowhere to hide when you’re writing to yourself.

So reflection and gratitude are the cornerstones of my New Year’s resolutions for 2015. As well as making sure my desk and the kitchen table are clear of clutter at the end of every day.

Following Jeff Olson’s advice I’m taking the time to write down every morning three things that I am grateful for. And to reflect on the most positive thing that happened in the previous 24 hours.

I’ve been doing this for as many days as the year is old and already notice some remarkable effects. I am much more optimistic, determined and calm. And from this place I can be more focussed on what success means to me.

It’s not so worthy – but it’s worth a great deal.

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Metamorphosis through art and journaling

It’s always a huge privilege to talk to artists about their work. I find it brings their creations to life for me in a way I don’t know that I’d get just by viewing their work in a gallery. I love to understand their process, the questions they begin with, the choices they make and how these present themselves.

Creating art is vital to our humanity, though often in our utilitarian, materialistic worldview it is more convenient, or more practical, to believe otherwise. However I am a fan of art and artists.

As a journal writer I like to reflect on what art has given me whenever I have encountered it. A couple of weeks ago I enjoyed a fabulous conversation with Swindon-based multi-media artist Jill Carter. Her collection Curious Narratives contains drawings, found items, photographs, stitched dolls, journals and items to wear, chronicling her time travelling in Italy, in search of the mythical Sybils, the prophetic women of the Classical world.

The Sybils

Jill’s Sybils, depicted here in pen and ink, are left to right a doll, a healer and a donor. It feels like these are symbols of her process and motivation.

I am intrigued by what dolls, and stitching, mean to Jill. Both are central to her work. Jill tells me that dolls signify our childlike creativity and expression, but she also considers them to be the story keepers, representing ritual and spiritual healing, like religious icons.

After working in social settings Jill describes feeling overwhelmed by people’s stories and how she felt herself being drawn to stitching dolls. I wonder whether this is about containment, holding in that which we cannot process or resolve. It’s like praying, transferring our pain onto an inanimate approximation of ourselves, in the hope of transformation. And the thought occurs to me that this could be why some people find dolls creepy – the artificial, frozen features are the repositories of unidentified fear and suffering.

After the stitching comes the healing. This feels like integration, and is akin for me to journaling. Once we are healed, once we have that clarity, then we can give. It is a metamorphosis of sorts.

Where are you on the journey from stitching to giving? How does your journal and your process help you heal?


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